What type of women are mistresses

Olivia Pope Kerry Washington from Scandal. Also known as: goomar comare in Italian. A side chick represents truly the best and worst of all other woman traits. A side chick is entitled to things like dates and gifts on her birthday. She may or may not know if her guy is married; she isn't married herself, and treats it as a nascent relationship in any case. Even if she knows her status, she may feel compelled to tell the original wife of the situation. The wife is likely unaware of the side chick's existence but may have her suspicions.

Many of the man's friends know about the side chick and anxiously await one of three outcomes: she's "promoted" to mistress, she's unceremoniously dumped often with the "ghosting" technique , or she decides to wreak havoc by exposing the situation to the light of day. A side chick may have a day of the week assigned to their relationship. Also known as: side piece, side bitch, girlfriend-on-the-side, sidey you get the picture.

This term is slightly more nebulous. A jumpoff is a gal or guy who is just around for the sex stuff. The absolute closest things to luxury in this relationship are a ride in an Escalade, a stay at a Red Roof Inn, and possibly cab fare home or a hamburger sandwich from McDonald's. This could be a repeated engagement, though irregular, or a single-serving bonefest. She may choose to stay in the affair long after she's realized her mistake for any number of reasons including denial, fear, and, of course, love.

Falling for the wrong person happens to all of us. It happens to single women dating single men. It happens to women who fall in love with married men. It happens to the wife of a husband who is having an affair. It happens to same-sex couples as well. The point is, most likely the mistress already knows she has made a huge mistake and only stays in the affair because she thinks her lover wants to be with her.

Of course, some women may not be that emotionally attached to their lovers, but I would guess that most are -- especially in long-term affairs that carry on for years. Mistresses are just like any other woman in the world.

They don't necessarily need to be vilified. How many women fall for a man and believe most of what he says? We've all done it at some point or another. If a woman knows her lover is married or found out at some point after she already fell for him, then there is no doubt she has been sweet-talked and promised to hundreds of times.

It's fairly common for a cheating husband to tell his mistress that he is miserable in his marriage and wants to get out. This may or may not be true, but whether or not he does get out of the marriage is another thing. If there are children involved or if the husband does truly want to be with his wife, then he won't make the steps to leave the marriage. A mistress has already placed herself in a vulnerable position, so if she is in love with the man she is having the affair with, she will make excuses for him, and probably suffers from deep denial.

It may take months or even years for a mistress to realize that a man is not going to leave his wife for her. If he was, he would have done it sooner than later. Hanging on to an affair in hopes that a man will leave his wife is something many mistresses do, and if there are years that pass by, she becomes more invested in the relationship, and also more comfortable within the lie.

The affair becomes her normal. The secrecy becomes her normal, and in many cases, she will self-medicate or behave destructively to alleviate the guilt and shame.

Being the mistress is not glamorous. An affair may start out as a thrilling, romantic whirlwind, but it almost always ends up a depressing, disheartening situation. News U. What surprised you most about cheaters? It was phenomenal to learn that the men who cheated actually saw themselves as very emotional beings.

Women have to understand that men are far more insecure and impressionable than they let on. Men very much want to please their wives.

Appreciating [husbands]is not going to give them a free ride - it's quite the opposite. Men keep telling me that when they felt they could win at home, when they felt that their wives were admiring or appreciative, that motivated them. You keep reiterating that cheating is not about sex. Only 8 per cent of the men said that sexual dissatisfaction at home was a primary contributor. The No. And that fit with another amazing statistic: 88 per cent of the men said the mistress was no better-looking or was not in better shape than their own wives.

It's not about sex. It's much more about a lack of thoughtful gestures at home. What kind of gestures are you talking about? They were verbal first of all: "I like that. The most common things missing are, "Great dad, great career person, makes money for the family. That's unfair, for men and women. Beyond that, it's the little things. It's the call to say I love you, it might be cooking or getting the particular food item that he likes.

It might be having sex. It's sending that message: "You're a winner for me and I want to be in love with you. You say cheating is not about sex, but 32 per cent of the cheaters you interviewed said they were sexually dissatisfied, 68 per cent said the sex was "different" with a mistress and 22 per cent noted that the mistress offered sexual options that the wife did not.